Photo by Mario Purisic on Unsplash
|
Abraham Lincoln, one of the wisest people the history has ever seen, has written a golden quote and it says these words.
A drop of honey catches more flies than a gallon of gall
When he was the President, being in the most important position of the United States, he used to receive a number of letters from Unions, Organisations, and even from normal people. Some used to be like a thanksgiving letter, but most would be criticizing his governance, complaining about the actions and laws, etc. He reads those letters and would write an immediate angry reply to those letters which were against his laws or actions, but would not send it immediately. Would put it beneath in the locker. Opens after two to three days and laughs at his own writing and puts in the dustbin. Writes another letter as a reply. But this time not with his perspective. He now writes from the other person's perspective and also loaded with some magic words. He used to say those magic words even in personal conversations and meetings.
I may be wrong. I am not always right. Come let's examine the possibilities.
Or you could say something like this, "You are right, but ......". As long as the other person does not know one of the famous conversations from Game of Thrones, you are definitely going to win.
Sansa Stark: They respect you, they really do, but you have to... Why are you laughing?
Jon Snow: What did father used to say? Everything before the word "but" is horse sh*t.
Abraham Lincoln was and will be one of the wisest people, but he has not said it in that letter. He didn't say, "Look, I'm the President, I am the wise, I know what to do." He played it subtly. What could you say to a person who is down to earth?
Dale Carnegie explains these subtle things wonderfully in his book. In the same book, he gave us the wisest advice.
Be wiser than other people if you can, but do not tell them so.
He explains one of his childhood experiences. He used to walk barefoot in the woods to his school, where he read a fable about the Sun and the Wind. The sun and the wind quarreled about which was the stronger, and the wind said, "I'll prove I am. See the old man down there with a coat? I bet I can get his coat off him quicker than you can.”
So the sun went behind a cloud, and the wind blew until it was almost a tornado, but the harder it blew, the tighter the old man clutched his coat to him.
Finally, the wind calmed down and gave up, and then the sun came out from behind the clouds and smiled kindly on the old man. Presently, he mopped his brow and pulled off his coat. The sun then told the wind that gentleness and friendliness were always stronger than fury and force.
So the sun went behind a cloud, and the wind blew until it was almost a tornado, but the harder it blew, the tighter the old man clutched his coat to him.
Finally, the wind calmed down and gave up, and then the sun came out from behind the clouds and smiled kindly on the old man. Presently, he mopped his brow and pulled off his coat. The sun then told the wind that gentleness and friendliness were always stronger than fury and force.
For people handling customers, bosses handling employees, it becomes a headache when we don't know how to handle some kind of person. And this book has a solution for all of those. But on the other hand, Stephen Covey states in one of his famous books that, "Many people with secondary greatness—that is, social recognition for their talents—lack primary greatness or goodness in their character. Sooner or later, you’ll see this in every long-term relationship they have, whether it is with a business associate, a spouse, a friend, or a teenage child going through an identity crisis. It is the character that communicates most eloquently."
So basically what he says is, being downtrodden for the purpose of winning over them, smiling at a person for handling situations well, will not help you in the long run. Their character becomes windswept.
In the last analysis, what we are communicates far more eloquently than anything we say or do.
So a drop of honey from your mouth can attract more flies, but a drop of honey from deep inside your heart attracts more flies and those flies stick with you.
This post is based on the knowledge gathered from contents by Dale Carnegie, Stephen R. Covey in their books "How to win friends and influence people" and "7 Habits of highly effective people." respectively.
Come on this ends here. But those two amazing books have tons of pages of these kinds of wonderful works. Read those from here.
-Balaji SV
Amazingly portrayed. Thank you for enlightening!
ReplyDeleteThanks. I appreciate it.
DeleteNice content dude... Quotes la eluthura.. super ha iruku..
ReplyDeleteThanks you very much dude. 😊
DeleteIntresting😉
ReplyDeleteThanks for that.
Delete